It's probably one of the most under valued, under rated and thankless jobs there is. I mean, I don't know about you in your house, but I never get any praise for it or even a thank you. It's just expected of me to do it.
I don't expect to be rewarded every time I dust and clean and vacuum; pick up things that don't belong to me and put things back in their proper place; clean around the rim of a toilet that has been stained by someone else; pick up damp towels that have been draped over the bannister and pick up dirty washing that has not been left in the laundry pile, but all around the rooms of the house instead!
If a cleaner was employed he/she would get paid and would be thanked for their hard work wouldn't they? So what is so different to those of us who are left to carry out the domestic duties in their homes? Why doesn't housework get appreciated by our families?
If it wasn't done, would comments get made by our spouses/live in partners? I think yes, they would. Yet, if the household chores were neglected would anyone else tackle them? Uhm I think not. I find that if I ever say aloud that the housework needs doing but I don't feel like doing it, my OH tells me not to bother and leave it as the state of our home isn't that bad. The thing is if I left it and didn't attend to it at least weekly, it would just get out of control and take even longer to clear up when I did tackle it!
It's not that I mind really looking after my home and cooking and cleaning afterall in my role as a SAHM it's what I am in charge of aswell as looking after my children. Don't get me wrong, I am grateful to my OH that I can stay at home and raise my boys and having housework as my job is fine by me. Afterall he works hard and long hours to raise enough money to allow me to be in the position of staying at home, so I don't expect him to spend hours cleaning the house aswell. It's not about me doing the household jobs, it's about respecting the fact that I do and not taking it for granted so much.
It's just that I wish dirty washing would be left in the correct place, to save me having to traipse around looking for it. Or maybe damp towels could be left on the heated rail in the bathroom. Empty cans could be put in the correct recycling box rather than the bin!!! You know little things that would make my life a little easier. It's not like I wave a wand and it all the housework gets done. It does take a while and it usually happens after the children have gone to bed, when I am tired and would like nothing better than to sit down and relax.
I think that's the difference isn't it between being a Mum (and in some circumstances a Dad too if he is the one in charge of looking after the home) and being the one who goes out to work. Whereas their job is a set number of days and hours , to an extent, ours is 24-7: it is continuous and we don't get time off unless our children are away and we have a rare few hours to ourselves. We can't just switch off can we? Our working day doesn't end . We can't log in and out. We are on call all the time.
And as for you Mums who go out to work and keep a house going, I take my hat off to you because you must be knackered before your home-work starts.
Being a Mum and all that it encompasses is the best job in the world it really is, but I don't think it's gets the recognition by some that it deserves. Wouldn't you agree?
Therefore, I think it is my duty as a Mummy to two boys to ensure that they are raised with an active role in helping out with housework chores and to learn some cooking skills. Then they will be prepared for living on their own and with a partner in years to come, and he able and willing to help out around their home. I want them to think of housework and cooking as a shared role and not solely the responsibility of one person and especially that of a woman.
That's my mission and my challenge - wish me luck!
But will I manage it living in a home where I am outnumbered by the opposite sex? Only time will tell, I guess.
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